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How To: Use DBT Skill: DEAR MAN to Communicate Effectively
DBT Skill: DEAR MAN teaches how to communicate effectively. These skills may be used to communicate wants/needs, as well as set...
Celebrating the Holidays as an Interfaith Couple
Holidays Can Work with an Interfaith Couple List of Helpful Tips: Be respectful – even when you disagree. Remember, you got involved in...
Why “Thankful Season” Should Last All Year Long in Your Relationship: Part 2
You can more easily recall the things your partner has done that upset you than the things your partner does that you appreciate. I’ve...
The Affair Series: The Windows and Walls of Affair Relationships
Shirley Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli, in their book Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity,...
Connection Connection: Read All About It!
Individuals have many needs- both physical, emotional, and spiritual. The focus of this series has been taking a dive into the nine...
To those who have lost someone to suicide,
September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. Initially, you may appreciate the statistics and the acknowledgment. When the month...
Social Support: How Important is it to Your Overall Health and Wellbeing?
Types of Social Support Emotional support – Most people think of emotional support when they talk about social support. Emotional...
Relationship-ocalypse: How To Be a “Honeymoon Period” Survivor
The biggest early obstacle to any relationship is one that few ever see coming: the dreaded end of the Honeymoon Period. The initial...
Myth-Busters: Relationships Edition
One of the first conversations I have with these types of couples involves exploring the expectations that they brought to the...
From Roommates to Reconnection
“We have different lives, like passing ships.” “It’s like we’re not even married anymore; we’re just roommates.” I hear these difficult...
Evaluation in Marital Therapy: Individual Factors
In order to treat marital conflict, the therapist needs to get a picture of the emotional state of each spouse. Three criteria Guerin and...
Being Together While Apart: Making Long-Distance Marriage Work
Set Up Boundaries The most important thing you and your spouse can do for yourselves is to set very clear boundaries of what the...
Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Acts of Service
If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love languages by...
Opposites attract, but do they last?
You need quiet when you first wake up, they need loud audio stimulation. Your idea of a date night is a quiet evening, their idea is a...
Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Physical Touch
If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love languages by...
Why Your Relationship is Stealthily Unhealthy
Criticism is an attack that dismantles your partner. When we think of unhealthy relationships, we often think of the extremes, such as...
Evaluation in Marital Therapy: Marital Dyad Factors
Emotional Climate To begin, the authors describe an emotional climate using the terms: Safety Is the relationship a safe place? If so,...
Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Receiving Gifts
If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love languages by...
Responding vs. Reacting
“By learning to accept the small things immediately as they happen, you can be free of having to react to things at all. You still can...
Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Family System Factors
Premorbid state of the family/marriage The multigenerational family system is important to look at. It’s framework can be used to learn...
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