Is Your Marriage Child-Centered?
Disclaimer: I very much believe kids are a blessing and we should involve them in activities that nurture their soul and builds...
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Make Your Marriage Stronger by Asking for Less
I promise to be your lover, companion, and friend. Your partner in parenthood, ally in conflict, greatest fan, toughest...
Let The Fight Happen
The “honeymoon” phase floats on by and then BAM! You guys find yourself in the midst of your first fight. The first fight can be...
When You Hate Your Spouse
Here’s how unprepared I was. When we did pre-marital counseling, our counselor told me I wouldn’t always feel ‘warm fuzzies’ for my wife....
Marriage Reboot: Keys to Sustaining a Long, Healthy Relationship
Twenty-two. That’s how many years of marriage I have under my belt. I met my husband while I was a senior in high school. I can remember...
Happy Wife, Happy Life: Wife Appreciation Day
Write a love note. Written notes will never go out of style. Nowadays, it seems like half of the interaction in marriage is through...
The Art of Good Sex
“Our bedroom life is boring.” “I don’t enjoy making love anymore.” These are words I have heard spoken in a session with couples. Here’s...
How Much Is Your Marriage Worth?
Is that how much a down payment on a house costs? What about the cost of a new vehicle? Nope. It’s the average amount of money spent by...
How to Let Go of Being Right
Do you or your spouse always feel the need to be right? Do either of you need to have the last word during a conflict or get frustrated...
Silence is (Not Always) Golden
However, there’s a time when silence does more harm than good in your relationship. I get it, there is a balance that is sometimes hard...
Breaking Down the Fortress of Resentment
Working with couples has familiarized me with what resentment looks like, sounds like, and its effects. It creeps in like a dark cloud...
Couples Diffusing Arguments with Repair Attempts
Dr. Gottman, one of the most renowned researchers in marriage and divorce, noticed that one thing that affects whether or not a couple...
The Benefits of Journaling
Journaling is a therapeutic tool or strategy prescribed by many therapists to help people who may be struggling with a variety of life...
Is Sex Therapy for Me? 5 Answers to Commonly Asked Questions
Furthermore, each couple deals with sexual compatibility a little differently. On one hand, some will seek help early when issues arise....
Restore Intimacy in 4 Steps
Is your marriage lacking intimacy? Has the affection gone from your relationship? As a marriage therapist, this is one of the primary...
Marriage Shouldn’t Be Fair
All you have to do to ruin your marriage is play fair. I have three kids. – I know this post is supposed to be about marriage, just hang...
Quick Intimacy
Let’s be honest, if left unchecked, marriage can become monotonous. Intimacy decreases as individuals have their daily routines. Spouses...
Let’s Play a Love Game
The game of love is tough. Two different players, with different strengths and different skill sets. In a relationship, sometimes it can...
Unhappy Wife? Let Me Help.
There’s a hilarious video that’s been floating around YouTube for a number of years now. It’s titled, “It’s Not About the Nail” and it’s...
Five Things Happy Couples Never Do
Many things contribute to the success of a relationship. In my couples counseling work, I’ve noticed there are some things happy couples...
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