Myth-Busters: Relationships Edition
One of the first conversations I have with these types of couples involves exploring the expectations that they brought to the...
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Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Triangles
We are following along what Philip J. Guerin, Jr. Leo F. Fay, Susan L. Burden, and Judith Gilbert Kautto wrote in The Evaluation and...
Opposites attract, but do they last?
You need quiet when you first wake up, they need loud audio stimulation. Your idea of a date night is a quiet evening, their idea is a...
Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Physical Touch
If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love languages by...
Why Your Relationship is Stealthily Unhealthy
Criticism is an attack that dismantles your partner. When we think of unhealthy relationships, we often think of the extremes, such as...
Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Receiving Gifts
If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love languages by...
Now You’re Speaking my Love- Language: Quality Time
1) Words of Affirmation – covered in my last blog here! 2) Quality Time 3) Receiving Gifts 4) Acts of Service 5) Physical Touch If these...
The Power of Connection – Part 1
As a counseling intern, I treasure this audiobook. As a human, I treasure her honesty and unguarded approach. In my opinion, she answers...
Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Words of Affirmation
Believe it or not, the same thing happens in relationships because there are different Love Languages. Maybe you’ve already heard about...
Breaking Out of that Slump
Breaking Out of Your Slump Now, I am not here to say that we will all break out of our slump the next day. However, the story holds a...
Your Spouse Is Inadequate
This expectation (conscious or subconscious) that your spouse is going to be able to magically fulfill all of your emotional needs will...
Givers, Takers, and Matchers
Givers Common questions heard from a giver are, “What can I do for you?” or “How can I help?” They are always looking for ways to take...
Build Rituals for Deeper Connection & Intimacy
Although the term ritual often has religious overtones, it really only refers to any practice or pattern of behavior regularly performed...
Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 2
“…neurochemicals – dopamine, norepinephrine and serotonin – surge through the body, igniting the euphoric feelings that come with falling...
Is Sex Last on Your To-Do List?
If you’re too busy for sex, you’re too busy! The truth is that sex, like all other facets of marriage, takes work. You have to be willing...
Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 1
I loved sports cards when I was in the 4th grade; collected, traded, and talked about them in class. I also combed through many Beckett...
Loving Freely
The truth is protecting ourselves is really costing us something we don’t know we need. That is, sincere connections made out of pure...
How Much Sex Is Normal In A Marriage?
How often should we be having sex? Great question! I’m glad you asked. It’s completely normal to wonder if you are having more or less...
Newlywed Christmas Traditions
In your own families, you probably grew up with certain traditions. Now, as a new family unit, it’s your time to establish your own...
How Checking-In Can Save Your Marriage
In 1988, an aircraft flying out of Detroit crashed immediately after takeoff because the crew failed to deploy the flaps. Almost exactly...
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