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If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love languages by...

Criticism is an attack that dismantles your partner. When we think of unhealthy relationships, we often think of the extremes, such as...

Emotional Climate To begin, the authors describe an emotional climate using the terms: Safety Is the relationship a safe place? If so,...

If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love languages by...

“By learning to accept the small things immediately as they happen, you can be free of having to react to things at all.  You still can...

Tools to help you to bounce back from life’s challenges. There are many factors that go into building resiliency.  Some involve things...

Premorbid state of the family/marriage The multigenerational family system is important to look at. It’s framework can be used to learn...

1) Words of Affirmation – covered in my last blog here! 2) Quality Time 3) Receiving Gifts 4) Acts of Service 5) Physical Touch If these...

In the book The Evaluation and Treatment of Marital Conflict by Philip J. Guerin, Jr. Leo F. Fay, Susan L. Burden, and Judith Gilbert...

Stage One- Trust vs. Mistrust (ages birth-one year) This is the stage Erikson describes as the dependence stage.  An infant is absolutely...

As a counseling intern, I treasure this audiobook. As a human, I treasure her honesty and unguarded approach. In my opinion, she answers...

20 questions to ask our children instead of, “How was your day?” Can anyone relate? What’s so lame about this question? The problem with...

Believe it or not, the same thing happens in relationships because there are different Love Languages. Maybe you’ve already heard about...

As parents, we embrace the pressures of parenting because we want the best for our children. The good news is that parenting does not...

What is discipline? When you think about discipline, what first comes to mind? Is it punishment? Is it a spanking and a time-out? Maybe...

This expectation (conscious or subconscious) that your spouse is going to be able to magically fulfill all of your emotional needs will...

In some ways, we are like the glass water bottle and our emotions are the water. It is not uncommon to bottle up uncomfortable emotions...

Similar to sun/mood signs in astrology, the Chinese have their own form of zodiac signs: different animals are associated with each year,...

Givers Common questions heard from a giver are, “What can I do for you?” or “How can I help?” They are always looking for ways to take...

Although the term ritual often has religious overtones, it really only refers to any practice or pattern of behavior regularly performed...