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Reclaim Attention in Your Relationship Attention is very important to human beings. As helpless infants, we need attention from others to...

Celebrations & Holidays Being an adult child of divorce means there is no “home” to go back to during the holiday season. Typically, the...

Step 3:  Attunement Many trust building behaviors occur in this area of the recovery phase. The partner that acted outside of the...

Holidays Can Work with an Interfaith Couple List of Helpful Tips: Be respectful – even when you disagree. Remember, you got involved in...

Atonement Phase This phase necessary to the rest of recovery, it is the time when the affair partner must come clean with their actions,...

EXPRESS THANKS WITH YOUR BODY We all appreciate nice words, but backing those words up with action could prove to be fun for the both of...

Typical Email Exchange: “How’s your day going love?” “It’s going, you?” “Same, I miss you.” “Miss you too, what are dinner plans?” The...

If you stop for a moment and take a good look at the relationship you have with your partner, are you connecting on a deep and intimate...

Shirley Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli, in their book Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity,...

“We have different lives, like passing ships.” “It’s like we’re not even married anymore; we’re just roommates.” I hear these difficult...

Although the term ritual often has religious overtones, it really only refers to any practice or pattern of behavior regularly performed...

Family Getting married was extremely exciting for me. Not only because we were starting a new family together, but also because we got to...

Fanning the flame of desire in your marriage doesn’t have to cost you an arm and a leg it can be fun and stay in budget!  Date nights (or...

Before you begin, ask yourself why you feel upset. Are you truly angry because your partner left the mustard on the counter? Or are you...

There’s a hilarious video that’s been floating around YouTube for a number of years now.  It’s titled, “It’s Not About the Nail” and it’s...

As a therapist, I am well aware of the stigma that comes along with seeking counseling or therapy. I think one reservation...

In my most recent blog, I discussed what boundaries are and shared some examples of different types.  In this blog, I would like to...

So, let me ask you, how do you define love?  When you tell your spouse you love them, what do you actually mean? This might be the most...

Raise your hand if you’ve ever read a marriage help book. (I have.) You know the ones – The Five Love Languages, His Needs Her Needs,...

Fighting Fair So often, I hear people talk about how they wish they had a perfect relationship, where they don’t fight with their...