When Children of Divorce Become Adults
Celebrations & Holidays Being an adult child of divorce means there is no “home” to go back to during the holiday season. Typically, the...
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The Affair Series: Attunement
Step 3: Attunement Many trust building behaviors occur in this area of the recovery phase. The partner that acted outside of the...
Celebrating the Holidays as an Interfaith Couple
Holidays Can Work with an Interfaith Couple List of Helpful Tips: Be respectful – even when you disagree. Remember, you got involved in...
The Affair Series: Atonement
Atonement Phase This phase necessary to the rest of recovery, it is the time when the affair partner must come clean with their actions,...
‘Tis Always the Season to be Grateful
EXPRESS THANKS WITH YOUR BODY We all appreciate nice words, but backing those words up with action could prove to be fun for the both of...
“How’s Your Day Going?” – How to Connect with your Partner
Typical Email Exchange: “How’s your day going love?” “It’s going, you?” “Same, I miss you.” “Miss you too, what are dinner plans?” The...
How to Deepen Your Relationship, Part I
If you stop for a moment and take a good look at the relationship you have with your partner, are you connecting on a deep and intimate...
The Affair Series: The Windows and Walls of Affair Relationships
Shirley Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli, in their book Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity,...
From Roommates to Reconnection
“We have different lives, like passing ships.” “It’s like we’re not even married anymore; we’re just roommates.” I hear these difficult...
Build Rituals for Deeper Connection & Intimacy
Although the term ritual often has religious overtones, it really only refers to any practice or pattern of behavior regularly performed...
Family Tradition
Family Getting married was extremely exciting for me. Not only because we were starting a new family together, but also because we got to...
Dating Your Spouse on a Budget
Fanning the flame of desire in your marriage doesn’t have to cost you an arm and a leg it can be fun and stay in budget! Date nights (or...
Steps to Fighting Fair
Before you begin, ask yourself why you feel upset. Are you truly angry because your partner left the mustard on the counter? Or are you...
Unhappy Wife? Let Me Help.
There’s a hilarious video that’s been floating around YouTube for a number of years now. It’s titled, “It’s Not About the Nail” and it’s...
Premarital Counseling: Shattering the Stigma
As a therapist, I am well aware of the stigma that comes along with seeking counseling or therapy. I think one reservation...
Boundaries: Part Two
In my most recent blog, I discussed what boundaries are and shared some examples of different types. In this blog, I would like to...
I Love My Wife, But I Still Cheated.
So, let me ask you, how do you define love? When you tell your spouse you love them, what do you actually mean? This might be the most...
Marriage Isn’t A Problem
Raise your hand if you’ve ever read a marriage help book. (I have.) You know the ones – The Five Love Languages, His Needs Her Needs,...
Fighting for Your Marriage
Fighting Fair So often, I hear people talk about how they wish they had a perfect relationship, where they don’t fight with their...
5 Ways to Get the Biggest Impact Out of Counseling
Making the decision to enter counseling is an important one, and can often be a difficult phone call to make. Your counselor is aware of...
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