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Think about the first big argument with your spouse.  Can you even remember?  Thinking back, was it absurd?  I’m going to quickly share...

Twenty-two. That’s how many years of marriage I have under my belt. I met my husband while I was a senior in high school. I can remember...

Although the holidays are over, we may be still riding the high of a new closeness that developed throughout the season towards our...

All you have to do to ruin your marriage is play fair. I have three kids. – I know this post is supposed to be about marriage, just hang...

As a couple’s therapist, one of the most difficult questions I am asked is “Are we going to make it?”. The beauty of relationships, and...

Have you ever wanted to ask your therapist something, but were afraid to do so?  Well, have no more fear.  Over the next couple of blogs,...

Be careful who you ask to define the Golden Rule. You might hear, “The person with the gold makes the rules!”.  Any smart husband or wife...

Well folks, ‘tis the season to be jolly! Of course, life is hard, and we may have had our share of troubles throughout the year, but the...

The holidays are really great. It’s an opportunity to get together with friends and family you haven’t seen in a while, indulge in some...

As I sit here, taking a break from all the holiday baking I am responsible for this year, a sense of relief comes over me. This year, I...

Let’s be honest, if left unchecked, marriage can become monotonous.  Intimacy decreases as individuals have their daily routines. Spouses...

It can take a long time to find the right fit as a client looking for a counselor. Counseling is at its core a relationship, and...

The game of love is tough. Two different players, with different strengths and different skill sets. In a relationship, sometimes it can...

There’s a hilarious video that’s been floating around YouTube for a number of years now.  It’s titled, “It’s Not About the Nail” and it’s...

As a therapist, I am well aware of the stigma that comes along with seeking counseling or therapy. I think one reservation...

In my most recent blog, I discussed what boundaries are and shared some examples of different types.  In this blog, I would like to...

So, let me ask you, how do you define love?  When you tell your spouse you love them, what do you actually mean? This might be the most...

“DON’T BUY THINGS YOU CAN’T AFFORD WITH MONEY YOU DON’T HAVE TO IMPRESS PEOPLE YOU DON’T LIKE.” – DAVE RAMSEY Discussing finances can be...

Raise your hand if you’ve ever read a marriage help book. (I have.) You know the ones – The Five Love Languages, His Needs Her Needs,...

Fighting Fair So often, I hear people talk about how they wish they had a perfect relationship, where they don’t fight with their...