How to Survive Becoming an Empty Nester
Part 1: The Departure and Remaining Connected Perhaps the real question is how will you get by without them there? It’s the ultimate...
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It’s Not Your Job to Make Your Spouse Happy
Your job isn’t to make your spouse happy. Let me say it again just in case you thought you misread… YOUR JOB ISN’T TO MAKE YOUR SPOUSE...
How Much Is Your Marriage Worth?
Is that how much a down payment on a house costs? What about the cost of a new vehicle? Nope. It’s the average amount of money spent by...
Family Boundaries: Sliding Door vs. Brick Wall
When I talk to my clients about establishing boundaries, there’s always a bit of resistance. “Won’t that make me a bad family member? I’d...
How to Let Go of Being Right
Do you or your spouse always feel the need to be right? Do either of you need to have the last word during a conflict or get frustrated...
Silence is (Not Always) Golden
However, there’s a time when silence does more harm than good in your relationship. I get it, there is a balance that is sometimes hard...
Breaking Down the Fortress of Resentment
Working with couples has familiarized me with what resentment looks like, sounds like, and its effects. It creeps in like a dark cloud...
6 Ideas for Becoming a Better Listener in Your Marriage
There are 8 basic parts of communication: sender, encoding, the actual message, channel, decoding, receiver, noise, and feedback. Each...
Couples Diffusing Arguments with Repair Attempts
Dr. Gottman, one of the most renowned researchers in marriage and divorce, noticed that one thing that affects whether or not a couple...
3 Steps in Selecting a Counselor
You’re are at a point in your life where you realize you need help. Things are out of control, you’ve lost your happiness and life just...
Dating and Thinking About Getting Married? Ask Yourself These Questions First!
‘Hypothetical’ conversation: Me: So, you’re thinking about getting married? Person: Yes! They are the one! Me: How do you know they’re...
The Benefits of Journaling
Journaling is a therapeutic tool or strategy prescribed by many therapists to help people who may be struggling with a variety of life...
Is Sex Therapy for Me? 5 Answers to Commonly Asked Questions
Furthermore, each couple deals with sexual compatibility a little differently. On one hand, some will seek help early when issues arise....
Dating Your Spouse on a Budget
Fanning the flame of desire in your marriage doesn’t have to cost you an arm and a leg it can be fun and stay in budget! Date nights (or...
Steps to Fighting Fair
Before you begin, ask yourself why you feel upset. Are you truly angry because your partner left the mustard on the counter? Or are you...
Restore Intimacy in 4 Steps
Is your marriage lacking intimacy? Has the affection gone from your relationship? As a marriage therapist, this is one of the primary...
More Love: Parents and Poop
What’s really happening in the brains of new parents? When my husband and I found out we were pregnant, we were showered with...
More Love: Building Love Maps
This month’s Love Series will help you with rediscovering love through a fun activity called Love Maps! Celebrating Valentine’s Day...
More Love: Open Relationships
As we are in the month of love, I want to talk about all different types of intimate relationships. There are couples, “throuples”,...
More Love: Accepting Influence
Think about the first big argument with your spouse. Can you even remember? Thinking back, was it absurd? I’m going to quickly share...
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