Being Together While Apart: Making Long-Distance Marriage Work
Set Up Boundaries The most important thing you and your spouse can do for yourselves is to set very clear boundaries of what the...
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Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Triangles
We are following along what Philip J. Guerin, Jr. Leo F. Fay, Susan L. Burden, and Judith Gilbert Kautto wrote in The Evaluation and...
Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Acts of Service
If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love languages by...
Opposites attract, but do they last?
You need quiet when you first wake up, they need loud audio stimulation. Your idea of a date night is a quiet evening, their idea is a...
Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Physical Touch
If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love languages by...
Why Your Relationship is Stealthily Unhealthy
Criticism is an attack that dismantles your partner. When we think of unhealthy relationships, we often think of the extremes, such as...
Evaluation in Marital Therapy: Marital Dyad Factors
Emotional Climate To begin, the authors describe an emotional climate using the terms: Safety Is the relationship a safe place? If so,...
Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Receiving Gifts
If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love languages by...
Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Family System Factors
Premorbid state of the family/marriage The multigenerational family system is important to look at. It’s framework can be used to learn...
Now You’re Speaking my Love- Language: Quality Time
1) Words of Affirmation – covered in my last blog here! 2) Quality Time 3) Receiving Gifts 4) Acts of Service 5) Physical Touch If these...
Evaluation in Marital Therapy
In the book The Evaluation and Treatment of Marital Conflict by Philip J. Guerin, Jr. Leo F. Fay, Susan L. Burden, and Judith Gilbert...
Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Words of Affirmation
Believe it or not, the same thing happens in relationships because there are different Love Languages. Maybe you’ve already heard about...
Breaking Out of that Slump
Breaking Out of Your Slump Now, I am not here to say that we will all break out of our slump the next day. However, the story holds a...
Your Spouse Is Inadequate
This expectation (conscious or subconscious) that your spouse is going to be able to magically fulfill all of your emotional needs will...
Your Love Life in the Year of the Pig: Part 1
Similar to sun/mood signs in astrology, the Chinese have their own form of zodiac signs: different animals are associated with each year,...
Givers, Takers, and Matchers
Givers Common questions heard from a giver are, “What can I do for you?” or “How can I help?” They are always looking for ways to take...
Build Rituals for Deeper Connection & Intimacy
Although the term ritual often has religious overtones, it really only refers to any practice or pattern of behavior regularly performed...
Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 2
“…neurochemicals – dopamine, norepinephrine and serotonin – surge through the body, igniting the euphoric feelings that come with falling...
Is Sex Last on Your To-Do List?
If you’re too busy for sex, you’re too busy! The truth is that sex, like all other facets of marriage, takes work. You have to be willing...
Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 1
I loved sports cards when I was in the 4th grade; collected, traded, and talked about them in class. I also combed through many Beckett...
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