It’s You & Me vs. The World
Have you ever thought back to when you were dating your spouse and felt like there was nothing in the world that you two couldn’t tackle...
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How to Save Your Relationship from the Rise of Technology
Reclaim Attention in Your Relationship Attention is very important to human beings. As helpless infants, we need attention from others to...
Redefining the Practice of Patience
Patience: I’m not usually one for inserting definitions into my posts, but this one is important. The literal definition of patience from...
The Affair Series: Attunement
Step 3: Attunement Many trust building behaviors occur in this area of the recovery phase. The partner that acted outside of the...
Celebrating the Holidays as an Interfaith Couple
Holidays Can Work with an Interfaith Couple List of Helpful Tips: Be respectful – even when you disagree. Remember, you got involved in...
Why “Thankful Season” Should Last All Year Long in Your Relationship: Part 2
You can more easily recall the things your partner has done that upset you than the things your partner does that you appreciate. I’ve...
The Affair Series: Atonement
Atonement Phase This phase necessary to the rest of recovery, it is the time when the affair partner must come clean with their actions,...
‘Tis Always the Season to be Grateful
EXPRESS THANKS WITH YOUR BODY We all appreciate nice words, but backing those words up with action could prove to be fun for the both of...
Ways to Deepen Your Relationship Part 2
Prioritize an End of Day Conversation After a long day away from each other, make an effort to reconnect. Of course, life gets busy and...
“How’s Your Day Going?” – How to Connect with your Partner
Typical Email Exchange: “How’s your day going love?” “It’s going, you?” “Same, I miss you.” “Miss you too, what are dinner plans?” The...
How to Deepen Your Relationship, Part I
If you stop for a moment and take a good look at the relationship you have with your partner, are you connecting on a deep and intimate...
The Affair Series: The Windows and Walls of Affair Relationships
Shirley Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli, in their book Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity,...
Why “Thankful Season” Should Last All Year Long in Your Relationship
Gratitude It’s thankful season! Each year, we gather around and one-by-one share what we’re grateful for. We likely put more thought into...
Surviving Back to School… While Married!
Back to School… Pursuing higher education is stressful, but sometimes, it’s a plunge you just have to take – whether it’s to finish...
An Open Letter to My Psychotherapy Clients
To those afraid I’m judging them I’ve heard it all, and I can guarantee you that I’m not easily surprised. I work with the emotionally...
Physical Needs and Emotional Needs
Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is typically one of the first things taught in Psychology 101 courses. Have you seen his pyramid of needs...
Relationship-ocalypse: How To Be a “Honeymoon Period” Survivor
The biggest early obstacle to any relationship is one that few ever see coming: the dreaded end of the Honeymoon Period. The initial...
Myth-Busters: Relationships Edition
One of the first conversations I have with these types of couples involves exploring the expectations that they brought to the...
From Roommates to Reconnection
“We have different lives, like passing ships.” “It’s like we’re not even married anymore; we’re just roommates.” I hear these difficult...
Evaluation in Marital Therapy: Individual Factors
In order to treat marital conflict, the therapist needs to get a picture of the emotional state of each spouse. Three criteria Guerin and...
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